I love how many of you are getting dressed this week — good for you! I’m also loving how thoughtful you’re being about the things that stop you from getting dressed. #1 on the list: Nothing fits any more.
If that sounds familiar, then it’s time to clean out your closet. I’m serious.
Lunch date #1: Pencil skirt for lunch with Pencil Shavings.
I had two lunch dates this week; for various reasons, I was racing to get dressed for both. These are the days I am thankful for my tightly edited closet — everything fits and it all goes together, which means that no matter how little time I have, I can find an entire outfit without losing my mind.
That hasn’t always been the case, though. I’ve lived with the closet full of things that don’t fit, and I know how frustrating it is to put together an outfit in your head only to find that some or all of the pieces are too small/big and absolutely will not work. It’s easy, at that point, to just put the yoga pants on again, because ugh.
When you’re in between sizes (and by that I mean not the size you used to be/want to be), it’s easy to start hording clothes. You don’t want to get rid of the things that used to fit, because they’re cute and with any luck they will fit again someday. But the things that fit get lost in the jumble, or overlooked because there are so few of them and they’re maybe not your favorite pieces.
It’s time to get over that and focus on getting dressed. The first step in dealing with your nothing-fits closet is to clean it out and rearrange.
Try everything on. Focus on finding what fits, not lamenting what doesn’t. If it helps, have a friend come hang out with you while you go through the closet. Choose someone who is positive and optimistic and who will keep you thinking about what’s working and won’t let you mourn what’s not.
Move all the pieces that don’t fit out of your closet. Ideally, if you have the space, move them to another closet or to a box or three under your bed. If that’s not feasible, then move them to the back of the closet, where you’re not staring at them every time you try to get dressed. You don’t have to get rid of the things that don’t fit, but you shouldn’t have them front and center. Save that space for what you’re really wearing right now.
Put together as many outfits as you can. Once you’ve identified what currently fits, think about how you can make those pieces work together. This is especially important when you’re dealing with a different size body — what you think will work on you may not, and it’s good to know that ahead of time. It’s also good to know that you have some real options for outfits, even if only a small section of your closet still fits right now.
Finally, there’s this: If you’re not loving your size or shape right now, consider that as an incentive to really get dressed every day. This is the size you are, right now, and you deserve to look great at whatever that size is. And I promise that the better you look, the better you will feel — and the more likely you will be to love your body, whether that means accepting this size as the new normal or taking steps to get to the size you would like to be.